What If You Stopped Starting Over?

Find what steadies you, and then stay with it long enough to grow roots.

David Shrigley: Extract The Juice From Everything, 2023

We live in a culture obsessed with instant results.
There's a hack for everything: productivity, wellness, self-improvement, and the promise is always the same: do this one thing and feel better fast.

And sometimes, sure, the quick fix helps. But lasting change doesn’t come from a one-off effort. It comes from rhythm—from getting your reps in (repetition) and building a relationship with yourself, your support system, and your process.

I’m writing this because I want more people to consider what it means to stick with something that supports their well-being, not just when everything is falling apart, but especially when things are calm. This is how you lay a foundation and build trust with yourself. And over time, you can finally begin to believe you are not a problem to be fixed but a life to be lived.

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What I See in My Work

One thing I see over and over again is people blaming themselves for not knowing what no one ever taught them.

They think they should already know how to set boundaries. Or navigate burnout. Or trust their intuition. But when would they have learned that? Who would’ve taught them?

Of course, it feels hard. That’s not a personal failure; it’s a gap in support, and ongoing support matters, not because you're behind, but because you're learning.

You're picking up tools now that should’ve been handed to you years ago. And here’s the good news: you don't have to master it all at once. You just have to give it enough time to become part of you.

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What Consistent Support Actually Offers

Real, Sustainable Change
Research backs this up. People who engage in long-term support—whether therapy, coaching, or mentorship—experience more lasting transformation. For example, therapy outcomes improve significantly when people stick with it beyond six months to a year.

Skill-Building Over Time
Whether it’s emotional intelligence, leadership, or boundary-setting, these aren’t “downloadable” in a weekend workshop. You need practice. You need space to try, fail, reflect, and try again, with support.

Deeper Self-Awareness
Spot treatments don’t give you time to see the patterns. But with long-term support, you begin to notice how things are interconnected—your stress, your habits, your choices, and that awareness becomes your power.

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What It’s Looked Like for Me

Since 2012, I’ve worked consistently with a therapist. Not always because something was “wrong,” but because I wanted to live well, not just survive well.

Life still throws its curves, but I don’t swerve like I used to. The rhythm of staying gave me space to grow in ways I couldn’t have predicted. I did not need a fix; I needed a foundation.

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Whether it’s therapy, coaching, or something else entirely, find what steadies you.
And then stay with it long enough to grow roots. Not until it works, but until it transforms you.

I offer 1:1 coaching for those ready to stop circling and start building a real foundation. Learn more.

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References:

• American Psychological Association. “How Long Should Therapy Last?”

• Journal of Counseling Psychology. “Long-Term Versus Short-Term Psychotherapy Outcomes.”

• Harvard Business Review. “Why You Need a Coach, Mentor, and Sponsor.”

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About Me

I’m Myleik Teele, an entrepreneur, coach, and community builder. Over the past decade, I have built, scaled, and closed CURLBOX, creating a blueprint for modern brand-building and cultivating thriving communities both online and in real life. Now, my focus is on helping people—from high-level entrepreneurs and executives to those simply trying to create a life that feels good—play bigger while actually enjoying the journey.

If you’re ready to stop avoiding and start building the life you actually want, [get on my coaching interest list] or [explore ways to work together], you can also find me on Instagram and my podcast, where I dive into life, business, and everything in between.